Low self-esteem or poor self-worth is where a person has negative feelings about themselves. People feel that anything they do, any action they perform is not good enough. They worry that people talk about them behind their back and lack self-confidence too.
People with a high self-esteem truly believe in themselves and that belief drives them on to succeed. Perversely, a person suffering from low self-esteem has no such beliefs which holds them back from doing things that they are probably very capable of doing.
An example of such perversity is in relation to the entertainment industry, particularly comedians, whereby they exude confidence on stage on TV, etc, but off-stage they are very insecure and often suffer from depression (some examples are Tony Hancock, Peter Sellers, Kenneth Williams, to name but a few).
The word ‘esteem’ comes from a Latin word which means ‘to estimate’ and that is what we do, we estimate ourselves by asking whether, for example, you like yourself, do I deserve to be loved or find happiness.
If you have low self-esteem then you probably don’t think that you deserve any of the above ‘How can anyone love me? I’m not worthy’. But people will love you and you are worthy. You are unique, as is everyone else.
There is very often a deep-rooted reason why a person would feel like this and this is one of the problems where THRIVE can play an important part. It helps you to understand what makes you tick, so you can face it and learn how to deal with it.